I dated mostly older men my entire life until 50, when I switched to exclusively dating younger men (10-15yrs younger). And I don't experience any of the humiliation or whatever that you describe. I got on OKCupid some years back and had twenty 35yr olds lined up to meet me by the end of the first week (culled from a list of 100+).
Is my experience different because I'm a woman so it's less cringey to the public? Maybe...but I have to believe there are plenty (or at least some) lovely, hot 35-40yr old women who'd like to date someone like you. Or is 35 too old for you? Because yeah, if you're fishing in the 20-something pond you're probably out of luck and then this post makes a lot more sense to me. Otherwise, it reads as defeatist. We're practically the same age and I'm playing the same game you seem to want to...but you're gathering your toys and going home while I'm kinda winning by a landslide, so no, I don't really get it.
What would fulfill you? A romantic relationship with a 30yr old, or sex with a string of them? Sorry, I really don't understand but want to. This whole dilemma of yours kinda fascinates me.
I’ve been celibate for over four years. I still date. It’s a great conversation starter. It’s really interesting that people have so much to say about sex and so little to say about the absence of sex.
Then she talks me into not being celibate anymore. It’s never in an offensive way. It’s a little bit foreplayish to be honest, her knowing upfront that no we aren’t going to do that right now. The record is held by a lady named Michelle. She could go 8 days no sex. For some that’s a big deal.
I dated mostly older men my entire life until 50, when I switched to exclusively dating younger men (10-15yrs younger). And I don't experience any of the humiliation or whatever that you describe. I got on OKCupid some years back and had twenty 35yr olds lined up to meet me by the end of the first week (culled from a list of 100+).
Is my experience different because I'm a woman so it's less cringey to the public? Maybe...but I have to believe there are plenty (or at least some) lovely, hot 35-40yr old women who'd like to date someone like you. Or is 35 too old for you? Because yeah, if you're fishing in the 20-something pond you're probably out of luck and then this post makes a lot more sense to me. Otherwise, it reads as defeatist. We're practically the same age and I'm playing the same game you seem to want to...but you're gathering your toys and going home while I'm kinda winning by a landslide, so no, I don't really get it.
What would fulfill you? A romantic relationship with a 30yr old, or sex with a string of them? Sorry, I really don't understand but want to. This whole dilemma of yours kinda fascinates me.
Ahh...I understand better now after our thread on FB. Never mind! :)
I’ve been celibate for over four years. I still date. It’s a great conversation starter. It’s really interesting that people have so much to say about sex and so little to say about the absence of sex.
Then she talks me into not being celibate anymore. It’s never in an offensive way. It’s a little bit foreplayish to be honest, her knowing upfront that no we aren’t going to do that right now. The record is held by a lady named Michelle. She could go 8 days no sex. For some that’s a big deal.