Casting a wide net is both good strategy and, as you say, gives you the chance to meet someone you might never have the chance to meet with more prefectural filters.
But to your point here the fact everyone has become so political is truly crazy especially when it comes to dating. That’s honestly what I tell women, because it’s true and it’s the best way I’ve found to enjoy life and not worry too much about things I can’t control: “politics is crazy, and both sides do things that drive me nuts, so I focus on excelling at my job, being kind to everyone I meet, and helping others while pursuing my passions and having fun!” https://getbettersoon.substack.com/p/guy-game-201-controlling-the-narrative
This isn’t “just politics”. Moral universe is an apt description of what you’re getting at. Declared politics is an accurate gauge of how your conversations will go, whether you will be expected to pearl clutch when you’re shown certain stories, be able to have arguments in good faith or with the assumption of needing to kowtow to offset your privilege. It informs you of how children will be raised and whether you can expect pride or emotional delicacy. If you don’t think it’s that bad, then congratulations on meeting women whose persona comes with some discipline, which might have something to do with what you bring to the table.
I bring a median income and I’m not very attractive. I bring little to the table. Given what I’ve dealt with, I’d rather die alone.
I believe it would be a pretty good gusge of an individuals character if you find they fully support Trump. Okay, you believe he'll reduce your taxes, you think he's a free speech advocate, maybe you actually believe he's a good Christian. Just because you're ill informed or lacking in intelligence wouldn't preclude a relationship. But to support everything he does? Then you're an asshole or a member of a cult, both of which should be a no go for even a shared beverage.
Very funny to me that there's apparently a demographic of young women (in a city with a lot more young women than young men), who think voting for Brad Lander is some sort of unforgivable moral rot to be excised from their lives.
Women don't understand this concept cause they never really have the build rapport or attraction in the initial stages of courtship. So, invasive political questions are just thrown out like leftovers in the trash.
The problem is simply avoided by just disqualifying people if they talk about politics. Works great for me. Of course, I believe that those who get engaged with politics are not all that smart, accepting a spoon-fed narrative of diametric opposition over issues that are not central to their lives. Really no better than football fans.
Great post but much too soft on granting that there’s something especially bad about 2025 (your post literally contains the dates 1936! And 1968!) and on people insisting that the universe provide them with a partner that shares precisely their opinions. You are actually, obviously going to end up less happy that way, and I think we can say that without even getting too deep into exactly how right or wrong these opinions are.
Casting a wide net is both good strategy and, as you say, gives you the chance to meet someone you might never have the chance to meet with more prefectural filters.
But to your point here the fact everyone has become so political is truly crazy especially when it comes to dating. That’s honestly what I tell women, because it’s true and it’s the best way I’ve found to enjoy life and not worry too much about things I can’t control: “politics is crazy, and both sides do things that drive me nuts, so I focus on excelling at my job, being kind to everyone I meet, and helping others while pursuing my passions and having fun!” https://getbettersoon.substack.com/p/guy-game-201-controlling-the-narrative
One thing to remember: as individuals we have very little say in what happens politically—and frankly it’s not worth caring all that much over anything you have almost no control over. https://getbettersoon.substack.com/p/hey-hes-just-your-old-man-hes-as
Women of character and depth don’t loosen up and loosen up on
This isn’t “just politics”. Moral universe is an apt description of what you’re getting at. Declared politics is an accurate gauge of how your conversations will go, whether you will be expected to pearl clutch when you’re shown certain stories, be able to have arguments in good faith or with the assumption of needing to kowtow to offset your privilege. It informs you of how children will be raised and whether you can expect pride or emotional delicacy. If you don’t think it’s that bad, then congratulations on meeting women whose persona comes with some discipline, which might have something to do with what you bring to the table.
I bring a median income and I’m not very attractive. I bring little to the table. Given what I’ve dealt with, I’d rather die alone.
That's crazy. Out of the probably 50 or so first dates I've been on I think twice I've been asked on or before it about my political views.
I'm constantly surprised by how awful trying to date in big cities is and absolutely don't regret moving somewhere rural.
I believe it would be a pretty good gusge of an individuals character if you find they fully support Trump. Okay, you believe he'll reduce your taxes, you think he's a free speech advocate, maybe you actually believe he's a good Christian. Just because you're ill informed or lacking in intelligence wouldn't preclude a relationship. But to support everything he does? Then you're an asshole or a member of a cult, both of which should be a no go for even a shared beverage.
Very funny to me that there's apparently a demographic of young women (in a city with a lot more young women than young men), who think voting for Brad Lander is some sort of unforgivable moral rot to be excised from their lives.
I get where they're coming from.
But no.
Women don't understand this concept cause they never really have the build rapport or attraction in the initial stages of courtship. So, invasive political questions are just thrown out like leftovers in the trash.
The problem is simply avoided by just disqualifying people if they talk about politics. Works great for me. Of course, I believe that those who get engaged with politics are not all that smart, accepting a spoon-fed narrative of diametric opposition over issues that are not central to their lives. Really no better than football fans.
Great post but much too soft on granting that there’s something especially bad about 2025 (your post literally contains the dates 1936! And 1968!) and on people insisting that the universe provide them with a partner that shares precisely their opinions. You are actually, obviously going to end up less happy that way, and I think we can say that without even getting too deep into exactly how right or wrong these opinions are.
Many forms of diversity are encouraged in modern liberal society - except diversity of thought. Sad!
Women of character and depth don’t recalibrate and loosen up