On Monday, my daughter's school soccer team – the Goddesses of the Girls Academic Leadership Academy -- traveled to South Los Angeles to play the Locke High Saints.
True to their name, the Goddesses took the high road, and that was their right and worth celebrating.
Had they asked for my perspective, I'd have offered that giving the do-over to the Saints was robbing the Saints of the consequences of their commitment. They chose to miss the game (and were inconsiderate in not sharing that they would) in order to do X. It's nearly irrelevant what X was, provided it was a voluntary choice, which it was.
Learning the impact of chosen consequences is essential to a positive and productive life.
That said, the Goddesses took the high road, and then thrashed the Saints. And both teams have significantly better mascots than my Poly Parrots. Well done!
Based on your essay, I would consider rescheduling; I know I wouldn't have, until I read the whole thing - based on the discourtesy in failing to notify your team before the first trip. I am not sure I would have rescheduled in the end though - because what if their conscience had lead them to march in support of Hamas? So I guess I am only conditionally open-minded. In the end if you forfeit a match based on your conscience (which you should follow) you should expect to live with those consequences. Noble choice by your daughter's team - don't think I would make the same choice based on the facts.
True to their name, the Goddesses took the high road, and that was their right and worth celebrating.
Had they asked for my perspective, I'd have offered that giving the do-over to the Saints was robbing the Saints of the consequences of their commitment. They chose to miss the game (and were inconsiderate in not sharing that they would) in order to do X. It's nearly irrelevant what X was, provided it was a voluntary choice, which it was.
Learning the impact of chosen consequences is essential to a positive and productive life.
That said, the Goddesses took the high road, and then thrashed the Saints. And both teams have significantly better mascots than my Poly Parrots. Well done!
I think that’s a fair take. Perhaps it was a desire for a win, perhaps it was misplaced altruism? Either way, as you say, a good result.
I didn’t know you went to
Poly! At Berkeley, I dated a Parrot, but she graduated in 1986.
Based on your essay, I would consider rescheduling; I know I wouldn't have, until I read the whole thing - based on the discourtesy in failing to notify your team before the first trip. I am not sure I would have rescheduled in the end though - because what if their conscience had lead them to march in support of Hamas? So I guess I am only conditionally open-minded. In the end if you forfeit a match based on your conscience (which you should follow) you should expect to live with those consequences. Noble choice by your daughter's team - don't think I would make the same choice based on the facts.