Three short notes: One: My therapist, Danielle, wants to help me parse out the reasons I'm choosing celibacy. We discussed it yesterday, and she reflected back what she was hearing. "I hear some real desire to work on yourself outside of a relationship," she says, "and that's good. I also hear you saying that you are tired of the way you disappear in your relationships."
"I am also deeply dismayed that this internalized anti-Semitism survives in my kith and kin. I find it not only dismaying, but deeply immoral." I couldn't agree with you more! Incomprehensible that the Austrian branch of the family felt that they had to keep the Jewish ancestry secret. Or perhaps it is all too comprehensible when one remembers that throughout the centuries "conversos" and "Marranos" were treated with distrust and hatred, revealing that in most cases racism was probably the deeper issue than religion.
"I am also deeply dismayed that this internalized anti-Semitism survives in my kith and kin. I find it not only dismaying, but deeply immoral." I couldn't agree with you more! Incomprehensible that the Austrian branch of the family felt that they had to keep the Jewish ancestry secret. Or perhaps it is all too comprehensible when one remembers that throughout the centuries "conversos" and "Marranos" were treated with distrust and hatred, revealing that in most cases racism was probably the deeper issue than religion.
"It reduces the likelihood of heartbreak" - that's the essence of the law and the prophets right there, my friend.